Scars

Lucas is out of the orphanage!!!  He is safely and happily with his foster family until we can get to him in 33 days!!  We are counting down the days!  We have some friends traveling to Uganda next weekend who kindly offered to take him some things and I have packed Lucas a little box with some toys, a picture book with our pictures in them so he can begin learning who we are and the hopefully the words, “mommy”,”daddy”,”brother”, a blanket, and a stuffed animal doggie, which will be his first possessions ever.

A common question I get is “Can he speak English?”  No, he can’t.  He doesn’t know any at all.  We will have to learn to speak his language while we are there, and teach him English just like you do your own child from the beginning.  He is only 2 1/2, so he is still young enough where I don’t think it will be a big issue teaching him English.  I hope to learn as much Lugandan as I can (the language they speak in Uganda) although spoken in different dialects-as Lucas speaks in a different dialect, but lucky enough his foster momma speaks the same dialect!  So we are hoping to learn a lot from her!

His foster family said he is sleeping, eating, and doing well.  The picture at the top is the newest picture I have of him with his foster family, who are taking very good care of him.  I know he is in good hands until we can get there.  Shoot, he even has shoes on for the first time!!  That’s very exciting to see, not just because of the shoes, but just in general he looks great!  I have pictures just 2 weeks apart, one of him in the orphanage and one of him 2 weeks later-just recently with his foster family, and he looks a world different.  Really looks like a different little guy.  Oh what a little bit of food, and care will do for a child!  And I know it will only get better!

He has been to a doctor for the first time, and we find out more information tomorrow, I’m counting on some health problems for sure, but all that can be cured with good nutrition and proper medicines, but we did find out that he is HIV Negative!!!!!!!  Praise the Lord!!!  We were told he was negative before, but the second test just confirmed that, and put our fears at ease. He will get another test once he’s here in the U.S. after 6 months, but we are sure that he is negative, which is a huge HUGE relief.

I don’t even know where to begin with the next bit of information we received about him.  I don’t even know that I should.  But I will, because this is part of his journey, our journey, and the part of our story of Lucas’s adoption. Good and bad, we will tell it all-which was our commitment through this website from the start.  Adoption is a beautiful thing, a blessing to everyone touched by adoption.  Not always is it easy, or glamorous, in fact a lot of the time it isn’t.  This is one of those things where it isn’t.

We all have scars, some have them worse than others, some have them on their bodies physically, some have them inwardly on their heart.  Lucas has them both.  I am told he has significant, horrible scars on his stomach.  Please grip yourself as what I’m about to describe is hard to read.  We are told by numerous people that they have never seen anything like this before, the doctor Lucas saw was “speechless”.  I am told there are about 10 different scars, which look intentionally done, and is suspected that it is burn marks, and/or abuse with something where he has been beaten with spikes.

We have not seen them yet.  I was told that they would take pictures of them and send them for us to see before we get there and before we see them in person because of how significant they are.  The last thing he needs to feel from his new mommy and daddy is a reaction of horror to the scars, which we are sure to feel.

I am told it looks as if they have been healed long ago, happening possibly before he came to the orphanage at 8 months old where he was found in a basin on the side of the road in the bush severely malnourished and dehydrated, left to die.  Possibly he had them then.  We don’t know.  No one knows.  No one knows what happened, where they are from, how they got there.  Only Lucas knows the answer, and the ones who did it.  I hate to assume it is abuse without fully knowing, because accidents happen, but by the sounds of it from multiple people, it is not an accident that these scars happened.

It is gut-wrentching, heartbreaking, makes me literally vomit to think about someone doing this to him.  Our baby.  Our precious baby boy.  Who could hurt this innocent child so badly?  We were literally in pain learning about this.  Our hearts broke for him.  I want to kiss all of those scars, and I will.  I know that won’t make them go away, I know that won’t make the pain of what happened go away, but if I can try to help ease that, make him feel beautiful, secure, confident, and loved, then I will.  Every child deserves that.

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10 Responses to Scars

  1. Sarah says:

    How sweet this meeting will be. To finally know he is safe and cared for in your arms! I am counting down the days with you, friend. So relieved and joyful for this child that will finally know love, hope, peace, health, and family. Praise the Lord for His blessings all around! Praying for sweet Lucas every day. I can’t wait to see those pictures. Kiss those scars for me, too.

  2. McKayla Leber says:

    Erin! I love reading over all of your updates and your journey of adoption. We are praying for you and for your journey over there to get Lucas. God hand picked your family for “just a time as this” to raise up and develop Lucas to know the Lord and love him the way you do. I am am so tickled with joy for you all. Again I am blessed alone by following your journey through all of this! Love you dear friend.

    • Erin says:

      Thank you so much for leaving a comment, it means a lot to me that you follow our journey! Thank you most importantly for your prayers!!! 🙂 I love you sweet McKayla!!

  3. Beth Little says:

    I can’t wait for little Lucas to come home and join our family! Especially you guys 🙂 I can’t imagine a family who will love him more and make him feel more important in life than you three!
    Love you!

    • Erin says:

      Thank you so much for leaving a comment Beth! I love them 🙂 I’m so glad you read our blog updates too!! I can’t wait for you to meet him! I love you!!

  4. I’m so excited to hear the latest on Lucas! Can’t believe how soon y’all will be going to get him! I know he is landing in the Bell’s loving arms for a REASON! I can’t think of a more loving, accepting, and nurturing family for this specific little boy to become a part of. Praying for you guys!

    • Erin says:

      Ellen!! I’m so so glad you read our journey and left a comment!!! Thank you sweet friend! 🙂 I can’t believe how soon it is coming too!! Thank you so much for your prayers, it means a lot!! I miss you so much Ellen.

  5. Aimee Fisher says:

    Oh Erin, how heartbreaking. I am just so thankful that you have found each other. Healing can begin on all sides! You guys will bring so much joy to that little one and he will to you also. I can’t wait for him to know the unconditional love of his mommy, daddy and sweet big brother! Looking forward to your updates from Africa!!!

    • Erin says:

      Thanks Aims!!! 🙂 Healing…that will be so wonderful! I miss you and I am wishing that next year we will be able to bring our sweet families together for a little reunion! I love you sweet sweet friend!!! Thanks for leaving a comment!!!!!

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